It seems to me that what most people think of as parenting is actually grandparenting.
Grandparenting is being responsible and stable, providing a home and having the wisdom to know what works and what doesn't. Parenting is being attentive and loving, being attuned to your children, being with your babies constantly and seeing to their needs.
This confusion may partially explain the huge push to have children later in life. Nowadays parents are encouraged to leave home to have babies, to have an education and a good job. But kids don't need more responsible parents. They need active grandparents. Parenting while trying to also fill the role of grandparent is very difficult.
From this perspective it's easy to see why so many parents seem to be struggling and how the push to have kids later in life is essentially giving children directly to a grandparent's role and depriving them of parents. Plus vilifying teen pregnancy and promoting independence is actually adding to the problem. Independence is dividing when what parents really need is more support.
What the establishment is essentially saying is they need a workforce more than good parents. In fact the worse parents become the more reason there is for the state to take complete control.
Grandparenting is being responsible and stable, providing a home and having the wisdom to know what works and what doesn't. Parenting is being attentive and loving, being attuned to your children, being with your babies constantly and seeing to their needs.
This confusion may partially explain the huge push to have children later in life. Nowadays parents are encouraged to leave home to have babies, to have an education and a good job. But kids don't need more responsible parents. They need active grandparents. Parenting while trying to also fill the role of grandparent is very difficult.
From this perspective it's easy to see why so many parents seem to be struggling and how the push to have kids later in life is essentially giving children directly to a grandparent's role and depriving them of parents. Plus vilifying teen pregnancy and promoting independence is actually adding to the problem. Independence is dividing when what parents really need is more support.
What the establishment is essentially saying is they need a workforce more than good parents. In fact the worse parents become the more reason there is for the state to take complete control.
I totally agree with this. The idea of waiting until one is "financially stable" to procreate is absurd. A couple should create their children out of love and join them on the wild ride of life.
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